Board Thread:Roleplaying/@comment-33842786-20181110164935/@comment-36106108-20181217040743

Popstar792 wrote: Sussettey1 wrote: Sussettey1 wrote: Also a reason why I don’t like the concept of being popular is because usually, people who worry about being popular don’t think too much about their future beyond school. They think that their social life in school is their whole life. This more often than not leads to bad decisions down the road, and a LOT of peer pressure. For example, a lot of shallow movies have this overused cliche where the main character becomes popular and forgets who they are and what they cherish. It’s only when one of their “friends” actually hurts their original friends/family that they realize what they’ve become. It’s overused, but a classic example of having so much power, it goes to your head. Believe it or not, I like having a low self-esteem, because it’s easier to be truthful about myself, it’s easier to make jokes about my weaknesses, and I usually don’t have to worry about praising myself too much in front of my friends if I’m almost always putting myself down. It sounds weird, but that’s how I see it. If I did become popular, that would change. Yeah, I can agree with that. I know you said "people who worry about being popular", so please excuse my previous commment. Yeah, it is true actually, because when you worry about being popular, it can impact your decisions because you get into a habit of constantly trying ro impress your friends so they can think a certain way of you. But for people who aren't obsessed over being popular, I can use myself as an example, don't really have popularity as a stress to them because they don't get trapped into that mindset of "put on a mask, even though it hurts, you have to put on a show" for everyone to think of them as a cool person. Peer pressure is often the reason why people feel like they can't be themselves. I've struggled with this myself in the past, and believe me, it is NOT something you want to deal with. Trying to force myself to fit in with what's considered normal just made me even less popular, and didn't really help with my self-esteem, either. My life has definitely improved since I decided to stop with all of that stuff. I know the saying "be yourself" sounds super cliche (and that saying it sounds cliche sounds cliche), but it really can help, both socially and with your mental health. At least, that's what happened for me.